How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex

Talking to our kids about sex can be one of the more daunting and awkward things we do as parents. But if we don’t, who will?

As it turns out, lots of people. And that’s the problem.

Movies, music, and magazines, TV shows and their commercials, online images and everyday conversations with friends—they’re all regularly communicating ideas about sex to our kids. And those ideas are often a significant distortion of the good and powerful gift that God has given us in sex.

Consider a few illuminating stats:

– The average age of a child’s first exposure to pornography is 11.

– 96% of young adults are either encouraging, accepting, or neutral in their view toward pornography.

– 62% of teens have received a sexually explicit image.

– The average age for the first sexual encounter is 16.

Those figures only begin to illustrate the default view your kids will have of sex absent your influence guiding them in a different and better direction. But how do we do that? The Crossing’s own Ryan and Kelley Wampler recently offered a seminar to help parents address this critical subject.

In addition to being the parents of three elementary to middle school-age kids, Ryan and Kelley have lots of experience in high school, college, and 20something ministry. All of which means they have some great perspective on how to approach this responsibility as parents. I sat through the seminar and thought it was a wealth of good information.

You can listen to the whole thing here, and follow along on this handout. Here’s a brief overview:

– Why it’s important that we as parents are our kids’ primary teacher on sex.

– What is biblical sexuality? What is it that we are trying to teach our kids?

– What to say when: topics to cover at specific ages and resources you can use.

– How to trust God with our kids’ sexuality.

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