Holiday Warning: Don’t Get ‘Ambushed’ by Grief

The Crossing has been offering “Surviving the Holidays” for several years now, and with good reason.

Literally dozens of people have been helped by this video- and discussion-based program, and so it is that we look forward to helping several more people this coming Saturday, Nov. 18th, starting at 10 a.m. at The Crossing, 3615 Southland Drive, scheduled to conclude around noon.

At first glance, it may seem odd for Christians, in particular, to talk about how we can survive the upcoming holidays, but thankfully most people feeling puzzled have not undergone a significant life trauma since Thanksgiving or Christmas of 2016. However, for anyone who has suffered through the end of a marriage or the death of a loved one these past few years, the notion that the holidays are going to be extra painful this year, something to be endured, often rings true.

Surviving the Holidays: DivorceCare

Surviving the Holidays: DivorceCare

When a marriage ends or someone close to us dies, the human soul is often able to summon up a “normal amount” of coping ability, usually based on our expectations for what we must accomplish from sunrise to sundown. Typically, we screw up the courage to get dressed, go to work, feed ourselves and our kids, all the time inwardly looking forward to falling exhausted into our beds once the pressing demands of the day have been met. Some days are better, some worse, but for the most part we manage to “get by,” perhaps even taking a few days off to mourn.

Our facilitators have spoken to a large number of people going through life-altering circumstances – we’ve all lived through similar circumstances ourselves at one point – and the one thing upon which most people seem to agree is that one of the worst things that happens to us as we mourn is the unexpected confrontation with loss that can surprise us as we catch a whiff of a very specific cologne or perfume, drive by a certain restaurant that used to be a shared favorite or hear a certain song on the radio. Barely getting by and already feeling as if we are going through the motions of life on an empty tank, unanticipated reminders can often shock us with the reality of loss and deal a crushing blow.

Surviving the Holidays: GriefShare

Surviving the Holidays: GriefShare

If you or someone you know has gone through either a separation/divorce or the death of a loved one in the past few years, please consider attending one of these informational sessions or forwarding this information on to a friend in need. The holidays are supposed to be a season of elevated happiness, bringing extra pressure to bear on those suffering loss but, armed with just a handful of good ideas, severe breakdowns can often be avoided.

This year, The Crossing is offering two separate/simultaneous sessions of “Surviving the Holidays,” one designed for those coping with the after-effects of divorce and another for those who recently lost a loved one to death:

Surviving the Holidays for DivorceCare

If you are separated or divorced, the holidays can be a lonely, stressful, depressing time. But there’s hope. Join us for an encouraging seminar that will help you survive the holidays and discover new ways to enjoy them again. Cost is $10. Breakfast and childcare included.

Surviving the Holidays for GriefShare

If you have experienced the death of a spouse, child or other close family member, the holidays can be a painful time and yet another reminder of the hole that’s left in your life. But there is hope. Join us for an encouraging seminar that will help you survive the holidays and discover new ways to enjoy them again. Cost is $10. Breakfast and childcare included.


2 Corinthians 1:3-5 (ESV)
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too.

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