Category Archives: Marriage

We All Need Protection…from Ourselves

Galatians 1:6-12 (ESV) I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting him who called you in the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel – not that there is another one, but there are some who trouble you and want to distort the gospel of Christ. But even if we or

Two More Votes for ‘The Modesto Manifesto’

Mark 10:2-9 (ESV) And Pharisees came up and in order to test [Jesus] asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” He answered them, “What did Moses command you?” They said, “Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to send her away.” And Jesus said to them, “Because

How to Stay Married for 49 Years

One of my favorite things this holiday season was the opportunity to celebrate my parents’ 49th wedding anniversary. The older I get and the longer I’ve been married, the more I realize how remarkable this truly is.

I asked my parents if they had any tips or advice that they thought had helped them reach this milestone. Here is what they shared:

Know Anyone Who’s Dreading the Holidays?

I recently ran into a friend who confided in me his grief over a friend’s disintegrating marriage. My friend has been married for decades, but even though divorce in the United States occurs in roughly half of all marriages, I was struck by how shocked and sad he was when faced with the reality of a

When silence is not so golden

Imagine the following scenario:

A husband and wife out for a nice dinner. The wife starts to talk about their daughter Kate; she then moves on to mention their son’s baseball practice that has just been rescheduled. And then it’s straight on to how the kids are constantly arguing.

The husband interrupts his wife. “Dear, can we please try not to talk about the kids while out on this date?” The wife agrees.

Cut to silence. The husband and wife chewing their food, not talking.

And the silence continues: husband and wife, eating a nice dinner, at a lovely restaurant, with no conversation.

Does that hit home for you?

The Most Sane Article On Marriage Ever To Appear In A National Newspaper

bride-groom-12616238When I finished reading “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person” on Sunday, I immediately checked to see if I was still reading the New York Times or if I had inadvertently hit a button on my Kindle and switched to The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller, pastor of a well known church in NYC. But it turned out that it actually was the Times Opinion page I was reading and the author wasn’t Keller or another pastor or even (as far as I can tell) a professing Christian. Instead it was written by Alain de Botten, a 46 year old British philosopher who writes books and appears on television.

I commend the article to you because the whole thing, as written by de Blotten, is worth reading and also because it might prove helpful to discuss with friends or in a small group or to pass on to others whether they are single or married. You won’t get a much better marital perspective.

6 Nuggets of Wisdom On Marriage and One Important Thing He Got (kinda) Wrong

Grace Highlighted in the Life of a Rebel

Yesterday marked my husband’s 55th birthday. We celebrated with family, friends and cake. Lots of cake…way too much cake. And lots of laughter too. On more than one occasion, I found myself sort of “stepping back” and taking it all in. There was Warren, surrounded by people who care about him, uncomfortably accepting the attention

Marriage as God Intends

Selfish individual that I am, the very first thing I did after learning that The Crossing was planning to simulcast Matt and Lauren Chandler’s Mingling of Souls Conference was to lock down mid-Missouri’s coolest sitter, my daughter Claire. Because “CB” is in high demand in the Columbia-area babysitting market – she drives her own car,

The Good News in a Canceled Wedding

We often complain about how the news always seems so negative. So if you’re in the market for good news, how about this recent item about a wedding…that didn’t happen.

No, that’s not meant to be a version of the old cynical joke that marriage is some kind of prison for the unsuspected to be rescued from. But the story does start with a couple deciding at that last minute not to go through with getting married. That’s normally a not a pleasant experience for those closely involved. And I’m sure the front end of this particular situation wasn’t any different for the couple or their loved ones. But what happened in the aftermath of their decision was special.

Since the bride’s parents had already paid for a $35,000 nonrefundable reception at a swank Sacramento hotel, they decided they’d go ahead with the party.

Except they changed the guest list.


ben zobrist pictureSpend time around our family, and you’ll realize we like the Kansas City Royals. With a husband and two boys already big fans, I thought it would be a good gesture towards family harmony to join in. So I was excited when the Royals picked up Ben Zobrist right before the trading deadline. Well, to be accurate, I wasn’t excited right away (my husband had to tell me who he was), but after learning some about him, I did get excited.

In fact, I was excited enough that I ordered the book that Zobrist and his wife wrote, Double Play. My son also was interested, and I love to encourage most anything reading-wise, with the added bonus that we got to ‘share’ this as a bonding moment. For the past few weeks, we have vied for who gets to read it. We agreed he would read it at bedtime and then leave it at the top of his bunk bed ladder so I could retrieve it before I went to bed.

Some background – Ben Zobrist is a super utility player, meaning he plays multiple positions. He’s great at getting on base. In fact, he’s been one of the best players in baseball for a while, in one of those sneaky, under the radar kinds of ways. He is a committed Christian and married to a Christian musical artist named Julianna Zobrist. By all accounts, his faith and his family are priorities to him, over and above baseball.

The pleasure in reading this book centers less on the excitement of Ben becoming a professional baseball player (although that in itself was very entertaining) and more on the reflections around marriage I walked away with, largely due to decisions by Ben and Julianna. Here are three of them: