Category Archives: Marriage

We All Need Protection…from Ourselves

Galatians 1:6-12 (ESV) I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting him who called you in the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel – not that there is another one, but there are some who trouble you and want to distort the gospel of Christ. But even if we or

Two More Votes for ‘The Modesto Manifesto’

Mark 10:2-9 (ESV) And Pharisees came up and in order to test [Jesus] asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” He answered them, “What did Moses command you?” They said, “Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to send her away.” And Jesus said to them, “Because

How to Stay Married for 49 Years

One of my favorite things this holiday season was the opportunity to celebrate my parents’ 49th wedding anniversary. The older I get and the longer I’ve been married, the more I realize how remarkable this truly is.

I asked my parents if they had any tips or advice that they thought had helped them reach this milestone. Here is what they shared:

Know Anyone Who’s Dreading the Holidays?

I recently ran into a friend who confided in me his grief over a friend’s disintegrating marriage. My friend has been married for decades, but even though divorce in the United States occurs in roughly half of all marriages, I was struck by how shocked and sad he was when faced with the reality of a

When silence is not so golden

Imagine the following scenario:

A husband and wife out for a nice dinner. The wife starts to talk about their daughter Kate; she then moves on to mention their son’s baseball practice that has just been rescheduled. And then it’s straight on to how the kids are constantly arguing.

The husband interrupts his wife. “Dear, can we please try not to talk about the kids while out on this date?” The wife agrees.

Cut to silence. The husband and wife chewing their food, not talking.

And the silence continues: husband and wife, eating a nice dinner, at a lovely restaurant, with no conversation.

Does that hit home for you?

The Most Sane Article On Marriage Ever To Appear In A National Newspaper

bride-groom-12616238When I finished reading “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person” on Sunday, I immediately checked to see if I was still reading the New York Times or if I had inadvertently hit a button on my Kindle and switched to The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller, pastor of a well known church in NYC. But it turned out that it actually was the Times Opinion page I was reading and the author wasn’t Keller or another pastor or even (as far as I can tell) a professing Christian. Instead it was written by Alain de Botten, a 46 year old British philosopher who writes books and appears on television.

I commend the article to you because the whole thing, as written by de Blotten, is worth reading and also because it might prove helpful to discuss with friends or in a small group or to pass on to others whether they are single or married. You won’t get a much better marital perspective.

6 Nuggets of Wisdom On Marriage and One Important Thing He Got (kinda) Wrong

Grace Highlighted in the Life of a Rebel

Yesterday marked my husband’s 55th birthday. We celebrated with family, friends and cake. Lots of cake…way too much cake. And lots of laughter too. On more than one occasion, I found myself sort of “stepping back” and taking it all in. There was Warren, surrounded by people who care about him, uncomfortably accepting the attention