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Lent is About the Gospel

Growing up in a liturgical church setting, Lent was a somber time of contemplation.  Ashes crossed foreheads.  The hymn selection on the old pipe organ only included minor, dissonant sounding chords.  Black cloth draped the altar.  Items were given up.  I remember hearing many of my friends complaining about unsingable melodies and the number of

Far as the Curse is Found: Pain in Childbearing

Everyone knows that childbirth hurts. From an early age sitcoms set in labor and delivery and knowing looks between women give us the general idea even if the rest remains an abstraction. For the Christian, Genesis 3:16 explains the cause of the pain. After Adam and Eve’s disobedience in the garden, God shares part of

Will You and Daddy Ever Get Divorced?

“Will you and Daddy ever get divorced?” My 6-year-old’s anxious question pierced my heart. It wasn’t the first time one of my children had asked this of me. I remember asking my parents that same question around his age.

How do I want to respond his question? What does my child want me to say? “Never, sweetie! Never! Never! Never!”

I mean, my husband and I are both devoted Christians who took a vow 16 years ago to one another. We take that promise seriously, love one another very much, try to serve one another and work through conflict, and know we are accountable before God. But, is that enough? Can I really say we would never get a divorce?

(Note to my Mom: Don’t worry, this post isn’t a cry for help or warning sign. Everything’s fine!)

At age 38 and after working in ministry at The Crossing for about 16 years now, I know the reality around me. My children see the reality around them, too. Fifty percent or more of families are torn apart by divorce and far more are affected by it in some way. And Christian families certainly aren’t immune.

Perhaps even more alarming at times is intimately knowing the sin that lies within my own heart. And every human heart. We are a broken people who, despite our fervent promises and good intentions, are in a war against discontentment, selfishness, pride, lust, and so many other temptations that threaten to pull us away from our spouse. Every day.

So, how should I answer my child’s question? Three options come to mind.

Three Babies and God’s Grace

On the same Sunday morning in 2015 two babies were born on opposite sides of the world. Neither are particularly special on the surface – neither famous nor particularly noteworthy. Neither knows of the other. However, news of both of their arrivals, and even on the same day, caught my attention and made my eyes a little misty – in a very rich way.

What is so special about these two seven pound babies?

Loving Our Neighbor: Racial Reconciliation and Children’s Literature

If you’re like me, the last week and really all of 2015-2016 has carried with it a sense of national and personal heaviness.  Pain, division, and tension are palpable.  If we’re willing, we read them not just in headlines and social media feeds, but on the faces of people we know.  As a white woman

Know Anyone Who’s Dreading the Holidays?

I recently ran into a friend who confided in me his grief over a friend’s disintegrating marriage. My friend has been married for decades, but even though divorce in the United States occurs in roughly half of all marriages, I was struck by how shocked and sad he was when faced with the reality of a

What We Have Loved, Others Will Love

“What we have loved others will love and we will teach them how.” -William Wordsworth- As a public school teacher, the words above became somewhat of a mantra. I hung them up as a reminder about what I wanted the students in my classroom to experience. They were words that also caused me to pause and