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‘GriefShare’ Begins Aug. 30th at The Crossing

Loss is a universal experience, yet one that often causes a great deal of pain and confusion. Broken relationships, dreams unrealized, hopes dashed…all of these life events produce a loss that, if not dealt with fully and grieved appropriately, can be devastating for an individual’s recovery. One of the deepest losses we experience this side of

7 Tips to Help Your Kids Engage with Media/Entertainment

Apart from throwing our kids into solitary confinement and shoving them meals through a slot in the door, every parent eventually has to make decisions about how to guide their consumption of TV shows, movies, music, YouTube videos, websites, and other media and entertainment options. Even failing to adopt a strategy is, by default, adopting a strategy. But if we’re wanting to take a wise, biblically-shaped approach, we need to do think through some principles that will help us guide our kids as they navigate the sea of popular culture.

We should acknowledge that there’s no flow chart or set of “if/then” statements that we could list that could cover every situation, but the following points should at least steer us in the right direction.

‘Wonder Woman’ Enters the Ongoing Battle Against Evil

Just last night, as our family went through the “New Testament in a Year” reading plan provided by The Crossing, we had a chance to review and discuss Luke 11:1-13, a passage of Scripture that famously contains – to our modern American way of thinking, anyway – perhaps one of the most unkind remarks Jesus

Sincere Faith: A Daughter’s Reflections for Mother’s Day

Like most holidays, Mother’s Day can be complicated. There are a million different reasons that Mother’s Day can hurt–from a lack of celebration or acknowledgement to infertility to the loss of a child or your own mother, unmet expectations are often amplified on the second Sunday in May. As someone who felt this ache on more than one

How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex

Talking to our kids about sex can be one of the more daunting and awkward things we do as parents. But if we don’t, who will?

As it turns out, lots of people. And that’s the problem.

Movies, music, and magazines, TV shows and their commercials, online images and everyday conversations with friends—they’re all regularly communicating ideas about sex to our kids. And those ideas are often a significant distortion of the good and powerful gift that God has given us in sex.

Consider a few illuminating stats:

Lent is About the Gospel

Growing up in a liturgical church setting, Lent was a somber time of contemplation.  Ashes crossed foreheads.  The hymn selection on the old pipe organ only included minor, dissonant sounding chords.  Black cloth draped the altar.  Items were given up.  I remember hearing many of my friends complaining about unsingable melodies and the number of

Far as the Curse is Found: Pain in Childbearing

Everyone knows that childbirth hurts. From an early age sitcoms set in labor and delivery and knowing looks between women give us the general idea even if the rest remains an abstraction. For the Christian, Genesis 3:16 explains the cause of the pain. After Adam and Eve’s disobedience in the garden, God shares part of

Will You and Daddy Ever Get Divorced?

“Will you and Daddy ever get divorced?” My 6-year-old’s anxious question pierced my heart. It wasn’t the first time one of my children had asked this of me. I remember asking my parents that same question around his age.

How do I want to respond his question? What does my child want me to say? “Never, sweetie! Never! Never! Never!”

I mean, my husband and I are both devoted Christians who took a vow 16 years ago to one another. We take that promise seriously, love one another very much, try to serve one another and work through conflict, and know we are accountable before God. But, is that enough? Can I really say we would never get a divorce?

(Note to my Mom: Don’t worry, this post isn’t a cry for help or warning sign. Everything’s fine!)

At age 38 and after working in ministry at The Crossing for about 16 years now, I know the reality around me. My children see the reality around them, too. Fifty percent or more of families are torn apart by divorce and far more are affected by it in some way. And Christian families certainly aren’t immune.

Perhaps even more alarming at times is intimately knowing the sin that lies within my own heart. And every human heart. We are a broken people who, despite our fervent promises and good intentions, are in a war against discontentment, selfishness, pride, lust, and so many other temptations that threaten to pull us away from our spouse. Every day.

So, how should I answer my child’s question? Three options come to mind.

Three Babies and God’s Grace

On the same Sunday morning in 2015 two babies were born on opposite sides of the world. Neither are particularly special on the surface – neither famous nor particularly noteworthy. Neither knows of the other. However, news of both of their arrivals, and even on the same day, caught my attention and made my eyes a little misty – in a very rich way.

What is so special about these two seven pound babies?

Loving Our Neighbor: Racial Reconciliation and Children’s Literature

If you’re like me, the last week and really all of 2015-2016 has carried with it a sense of national and personal heaviness.  Pain, division, and tension are palpable.  If we’re willing, we read them not just in headlines and social media feeds, but on the faces of people we know.  As a white woman