Are you asking (and answering) the right questions? I was sitting in a coffee shop with a group of guys that I regularly meet with and we came up with a list of unhelpful questions that people ask themselves.
- Is this fair?
- How can I get more?
- Don’t I deserve better?
- How do I compare to _______?
- Why did this happen to me?
Each of those questions causes us to think more and more about ourselves. I’m tired of thinking about myself, aren’t you? And the Bible is pretty clear that being self focused leads to unhappiness.
In her book Seated With Christ: Living Freely in a Culture of Comparison, Heather Holleman gives 4 questions that Christians should be asking themselves. I found them to be very helpful.
4 Hard But Great Questions
1. Is knowing Jesus better than anything?
Knowing Jesus and being with Him is better than any life I could design or imagine for myself. What’s the best life I could imagine? Is Jesus better? Is knowing Jesus more pleasurable, more exciting, more satisfying, more meaningful, more purposeful, and fuller than anything I have or hope to possess?
If the answer to the question is no, then why bother with worshipping that kind of God? If knowing Jesus isn’t enough, then of course we will turn to whatever does promise satisfaction.
2. Will I live the life God asks me to?
Will I live the life God asks me to even if I am sick or poor or unknown? Can I pray, “Not my will but Thy will be done” when it comes to my life? Can I pray, “God, I don’t want the life I want but the life you give me because I know that your will is better than mine?”
This question calls me to surrender.
3. Is there anything in my life that doesn’t please God?
Psalm 139:23-24 Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. 24 See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
4. Am I available to be used by God?
When I walk into my family, office, school, or church am I willing to be God’s ambassador? Am I willing to serve, encourage, and pray for people? If so, that will require me to think more about others and less about myself.
Isaiah 6:8 Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?” And I said, “Here am I. Send me!”