Talking to Your Kids About Sex

My wife and I are the parents of three kids, and though the oldest is just starting second grade, we’ve been occasionally discussing how to talk with our kids about sex. In fact, it might be better to say that we’ve been discussing how to continue talking to them about the subject (more on this below).

To be sure, we’re not having or even planning a comprehensive conversation with them anytime soon (more on this below as well), but we are trying to think through how to approach the whole issue now and as our kids get older. This brings me quickly to two important points:

1. If you’re wondering if we’re jumping the gun with our kids about sex, I’m not sure whether you’ve been paying enough attention. I don’t say that to be annoying, but rather to point out that kids in our culture are exposed to sex and sensuality earlier and more often than ever before. And this is apart from all the naturally inquisitive questions that kids tend to raise at any age (you guessed it: more below).

2. That beings said, we haven’t figured it all out. Not even close.

So while my wife and I will probably never be qualified to write a book and start scheduling seminar tours, I did recently run across an article from Mollie Hemmingway that I found to be full of good, practical advice. I’ll include several of her points here along with excerpts, but I really encourage you to read the whole thing.

Who Are You…Really?

My ears always perk up when I hear someone use the common phrase, “I’m a good person,” or – even more revealing – “We’re good Christians.” Most often, the person speaking is simply trying to make some sort of distinction between themselves (or their people group) and those who commit horrific sins against others, perhaps

Songs and Scenes: Sunday, August 24, 2014

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Songs and Scenes is a weekly blog review of songs, readings and prayers featured in The Crossing’s Sunday morning liturgy. You’ll find links in the song titles that will allow you to purchase recorded versions of the songs where available.

Getting Ready for Sunday, Aug. 24th, at The Crossing

After a few weeks off for vacation, the Friday “how to prepare for Sunday” posts are back. Worship on a Sunday starts before Sunday morning. That’s true not just for the band and the pastor and tech crew but for all of us. When you prepare ahead of time, you are getting yourself in the

When It Comes To Divorce, Christians Are Hypocrites

The word on the street is that Christians are hypocrites. I’m sure you’ve heard it: “People go to church and claim to be Christians but they don’t live any differently than the rest of us.” If that’s accurate, that is really bad news because it calls into question whether the gospel has the power to

Recent Op-Ed: Abortion Involves No Moral Debate

In a recent opinion piece in the Washington Post, Janet Harris takes issue with those who describe abortion as a “difficult decision.” Of the problems she associates with such language, she finds one to be especially troublesome:

It is a tacit acknowledgment that terminating a pregnancy is a moral issue requiring an ethical debate. To say that deciding to have an abortion is a “hard choice” implies a debate about whether the fetus should live, thereby endowing it with a status of being. It puts the focus on the fetus rather than the woman. As a result, the question “What kind of future would the woman have as a result of an unwanted pregnancy?” gets sacrificed. By implying that terminating a pregnancy is a moral issue, pro-choice advocates forfeit control of the discussion to anti-choice conservatives.

Contrary to numerous movies and “very special” television episodes portraying abortion as an agonizing, complex decision (“Obvious Child” notwithstanding), for many it is a simple choice and often the only practical option.

What to say in response?

Happiness is Overrated

Everyone wants to be happy. I’m no different than anyone else is this regard; when the happy times show up, I instinctively want to make them last as long as possible. The difficulty comes in learning that none of us has the ability to “lock it down” once it arrives. Oftentimes I instinctively seek to